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Before you stop reading this, because I have already posted about de-cluttering, and organizing, and Spring cleaning, and you can’t bear to read another one of those posts….stay with me on this one! De-cluttering is so often put out there as an organization of your things, and streamlining your stuff, that I think the purpose…the actual reason of WHY you want to de-clutter sometimes gets lost.
I am reading 2 books on de-cluttering right now, and the one that I will share with you today is called Unstuffed, by Ruth Soukup. She is well known in the organizing world for getting rid of ALL of her kids toys one year, and also her 40-hanger rule. I have loved her de-cluttering tips before, but thought this book would be more of the same advice, that I know already and contantly revisit…but it isn’t.
Because it speaks to the “Why?” and the “What?” and also the “How?”
Why do you want your stuff? How do you want your home to look? What do you want others to feel when they enter your house? How do you want to feel when you’re in it? She asks the root-questions of why we feel we need more stuff, and is it working for us. Is it working?
For me, the answers took a bit longer than I expected.
We bought our current house 2 months after I delivered my twins. My girls were almost 5 and 3, and my husband had just had open heart surgery 6 months prior. It was a crazy time in our lives, and joyful in so many ways. But packing up our beloved first home, and moving into a new (to us) bigger house, was lot of work that I wasn’t up for. My focus was solely on the kids and especially my two babies…And keeping myself from insanity! Even thinking about house and home was very much on the back-burner.
Now, 6 years later (sigh) we haven’t really done anything to our “new” house. Nothing. We painted a bit. But minimally. We are finally feeling like we have a little time back to do some of these home improvements. Now that the kids understand to stay away from wet-paint, it is time for some major house-love. Before all this love starts, we need to do the tough-love thing: Get rid the things that we don’t love anymore and have been holding onto, because it might be useful someday, or it was given to us by someone, even though we didn’t need it or want it sometimes.
Here is an excert from the first chapter: Living
“The very first step towards becoming unstuffed is being realistic about how we actually use our homes, as well as how we want to use our homes. After all, filling our home with things we don’t need based on a fantasy that will never happen is nothing more than an exercise in frustration. Instead, when we are honest with ourselves and with our spouses about the purpose and function of our living space, it becomes easier to sift out the things that matter from the things that only add to the chaos.”
The idea is to only keep the things that make us happy and that we LOVE.
One of the tips she has in her book (adapted from a statement from William Morris, I believe) is to get rid of anything that you don’t think is beautiful or makes you happy… Well, I still need furniture, so that probably won’t happen right away! I do need to sit somewhere! But what I can do, is make every room the best that it can be: so that it feels welcoming, clean, clutter-free, organized, useful, and pretty. I want people to want to be in my home. Not a small task, but taken in little bites, I can make it through the house, piece by piece and make it what we had made in our old house: a home that reflects who we are…well, this messy house kind of does…Errr. I want the house we live in today to feel good to us, and to make us want to be here!
Declutter your home, mind and soul once and for all in Ruth Soukup’s life-changing new book, Unstuffed. Through personal stories and practical action plans, she will inspire you to finally clear the STUFF that is weighing you down—once and for all.
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