Thanks to NetGalley, I had the recent opportunity to read (and read again, taking screen-shots!):
How to Talk So Little Kids Will Listen
A Survival Guide to Life with Children Ages 2-7
by Joanna Faber; Julie King
Pub Date: January 10th, 2017; Scribner; 416 pages
Now, I have a hard time recommending parenting books, for the simple reason that I don’t want to impose my own parenting thoughts onto other moms. It is hard enough to get through a day of multi-tasking madness without having someone project their parent-shaming onto you…so I won’t.
But this is the exact reason why I am recommending this book. You will love it. The authors are so smart. They never shame moms or do the “you should do this” in the book. I can solidly say that I think most parents will be able to identify with so many scenarios in the book and get some great ideas (for now or later) for speaking with your kids.
Let me start by giving you the authors’ backgrounds. Joanna Faber is the daughter of the famous author (Adele Faber) of “How to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk”- the major bestseller and famed “best parenting book.” Well…she tells us in the intro to the book, that this was major pressure for her as a parent. Imagine that your own mom was the go-to expert of all things parenting…you could only hope to live up to that!
What she does in the most identifiable way (with her genius communicator co-author Julie King) is to show us situations from several different parents, including themselves. You are shown scenarios, and then the before and after to handling different situations. By the end of a chapter, you have the sense that you could indeed manage your screaming, terrified, and unruly child…or children. Not that I have any of those.*wink*
If as you are reading the book, you start to panic that you need to remember all this great information, lest you forget how to do the new strategies, the authors have cleverly added easy “things to remember” at the end of each chapter. I personally read the e-book version, so I took screen shots of every single one of these snippets! Seriously, I am studying the book over and over.
I think what I like is the no blame, no shame, if you screw a situation up, just love your kid and let them know it kind of synopsis. I feel like I am an okay mom after reading this. Other people are struggling- even the experts have their tough moments- so it reassured me that I was doing okay…it just gives a lot of really great ways to talk so your kids feel that they can manage their lives, and that you are helping them to be kind and resourceful kids.
I can’t say enough about this book. I think it would be a great resource for all families with kids. Even though the age range is 2-7 in the title…mine are 6-11. I am using every strategy in here lately with all of them. I just wish I had been able to have this sooner. Thanks to the authors- I have already learned so much from this book.