Parenting and Letting Go

I love this poem/saying by the late Gary C. Meyers, co-founder of Highlights for Children.  Here it is:

“Oh God, make me a better parent. Help me to understand my children, to listen patiently to what they have to say and to understand all their questions kindly. Keep me from interrupting them, talking back to them and contradicting them. Make me as courteous to them as I would have them be to me. Give me the courage to confess my sins against my children and ask forgiveness, when I know I have done wrong.

May I not vainly hurt the feelings of my children. Forbid that I should laugh at their mistakes, or resort to shame and ridicule as punishment. So guide me hour by hour that I may demonstrate by all I say and do that honesty produce happiness.

Reduce, I pray, the meanness in me, May I cease to nag; and when I am out of sorts, help me, O Lord, to hold my tongue. Blind me to the little errors of my children and help me to see the good things that they do. Give me a ready word of honest praise.

Help me to treat my children as those of their own age, but let me not exact of them the judgments and conventions of adults. Allow me not to rob them of opportunity to wait upon themselves, to think, to choose, and to make their own decisions.

Forbid that I should ever punish them for my selfish satisfaction. May I grant them all their wishes that are reasonable and have the courage always to withhold a privilege which I know will do them harm.

Make me so fair and just, so considerate and companionable to my children that they will have genuine esteem for me. Fit me to be loved and imitated by my children. Oh God, do give me calm and poise and self-control.”

— Garry C. Myers

Thanks to him.  I love this poem/mantra. I keep it in my wallet, so I can look at it all the time.  Like when I am sitting in my car, and have just finished taking the 4 kids to the grocery store.  Keeping it real, and yet, keeping it calm.