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Mom Stuff & the Holidaze

So fun all this Christmasing and shopping, and wrapping…and still having laundry to fold. Sigh. The nerve. My kids are on chore duty for sure this last week of work and school, as I ramp up to crazy-town, with all the shopping, baking, cleaning, putting stuff away… but this is the good news. They are learning that with celebration comes the preparation. The ready-making.  The tidying up. And then finally the cleaning up. It is all good for them. Good for all of us, though if you are listening, dear Santa, I wish I had bigger closets to shove things into!

I actually love every living bit of this, as I know we all do, and we all feel the crazy. My ceiling is intact this year [you can read about that in this older post], and my kids (knock wood) don’t have any major germs or bugs that will infest us…yet. So bring on the fun, my friends! The visits, the wine, the music, the laughter, the fun food, and presents to share! Bring it on, my lovely family, as I am so ready to celebrate and share some quality time with you all!

Here’s what I have been up to all weekend:

Baking:

Gingerbread Cut-Outs

Hello Dolly’s

Cherry Bonbons (from Averie Cooks)

Sugar Roll-ups (from Salt Tree)

Reading:

Absolutely nothing. Who has time to read?! Are you kidding me?! But I do have my 2016 Book Riot Challenge sort of finished! The only book I didn’t read was a non-fiction book about science, unless you consider “library science,” which is not even close to a science. It’s more a theory and practical trade. Anyhoo…I read a lot of weird stuff this year because of this challenge (italics are the category it fit into on the list):

  • Amityville Horror was the horror book that I chose that also was a book first published in the decade I was born. It’s about poltergeists and exorcism started a crazy fun conversation with my in-laws about a story they just read in Vanity Fair about a priest who solely does exorcisms. Different point of view of life entirely. Super interesting
  • Relish, by Lucy Knisley as a food memoir, but also is a graphic novel was so nice to read as though I was 10 again. Comic book style memoir is sort of interesting as a concept, but I liked reading it quickly but in chunks.

  • Wild Seed
    , by Octavia Butler is a classic, and also the first book in a series by a person of color, and science fiction, with gender-identity issues. So weird, but in an unexpectedly good way.
  • Zealot, by Reza Azlan was so interesting, like in the way, college was interesting. It opened up a scholarly point of view on the Bible and Jesus as a man, not as a Christ. I learned a ton. He is a very  interesting author, and I was very happy to have picked this one up. It fit into a book about religion. Duh. Of course it did.

Those aren’t super weird, but I like the Book Riot Challenge, because it’s like choosing books that you wouldn’t choose for yourself. Sometimes those are the best…what you need isn’t always what you choose. And then, some things I read off list have been awesome too, so I like to follow a list and then also just read to read, so it doesn’t feel like a job! (said the librarian-me!)

The new Book Riot, Read Harder 2017 Challenge is up…and it is weird too! I love it. I am definitely going to be reading outside of my comfort zone this year- as long as I am reading!

Watching:

New England Patriots by theglobalpanorama, on Flickr
"New England Patriots" (CC BY-SA 2.0) by theglobalpanorama

The Patriots/Broncos…but really just eating dinner and folding laundry, WHILE watching the game… I am queen this week, of this well known, crazy-making-mom-phenomenon, some call multi-tasking…like that makes it okay. It’s not. I should just sit down.

The new season of Ray Donovan. I binge watch, so I am doing this one first. Then the Affair, then Billions, then…

And as I type, my husband is reminding me to get teacher gifts this week….gift cards my friends. Never candles or mugs. Just saying. That’s what my teacher friends tell me- “Get gift cards.” So I listen. No more playtime, mom has to get crackin’!

Have a great and wonderful Monday, and stay crazy. But calm. xo

Inspiration for Moms: Keeping the Oil Burning

So this is what I am doing today:

The Before Pile

So…This is real.

Yes. This is a real picture of my actual disgusting drop-area in the house -but you know there is more than just the one!  I have started {to think about} the Spring Clean. The boring regularity of everyday life. This is authenticity my friends.  My house is a mess! And you can see that this is not a metaphor.

My metaphorical house (ME, in case that wasn’t clear) is doing just fine, thank you.  I am sticking to a pretty healthy meal plan, exercising regularly, and taking the Vitamin D. Yes, I am fine.  What needs work is my actual house.  But I think these are connected; Me and this house.

These surrounding walls do need some work.  But I am finding it hard to motivate despite the piles growing around me.  I just started with one little pile and I did attack it first thing this morning.

The After Clean up

This is the “After” Pile-Place. Ready for more stuff now!

Already am feeling better.  The purge of junk, whether it is in your actual home or the metaphor for your body, can feel so good. The problem for me has never been, the doing of a daunting task.  That is the easy part. It is the starting…and seeing through to the finish that I think takes the mental toughness, and the motivation to keep it going.  So first, we just have to start.  Start with a little pile and then hopefully, like the pictures above, you will see a difference.

Tidy Up

I may even dust. Now, that is close to a miracle in this house!  As you know, I like to read to get inspired, so I want to share a beauty from Mother Theresa:

mother theresa

These true “drops” of love and everyday kindnesses are the oil in our lamps, the motivation to get going.  Doing something nice for yourself can give you back the energy that can waterfall into lots of positive things… Like cleaning your house.

I plan to get outside in this sunshine and enjoy the park with the boys, and go for a walk or run All day long, I will be feeding, cleaning, driving, fixing…so I need to keep my own flame burning. Do something for me, and then something for everyone else.

I am a true believer in balance in all things, and life-balance gets off kilter for moms more than anyone, I think.  We are in constant motion, tidying, fixing, feeding, cleaning, mending, brushing…and on it goes 24/7/365.  When we take the time to STOP and do something for ourselves, we can feel the love reflected back.

We can only be loving if we are loved, and sometimes moms have to do a little of that for themselves.

What will you do for yourself today?

 

Inspiration for Moms In a Hurry

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I am reading a book right now, that speaks to fellow moms and parents who struggle with trying to fit it all in- work, family, friends- and enjoy every moment. Aren’t we all? Trying, I mean?  The author of the book is Katrina Kenison.  She is, I think, pretty well known in some circles, at least circles of moms. But she wasn’t known to me, and so, after now reading her work, I am sharing her with you.

This is the one that I am reading now:

Not on my normal reading list. Can you read the fine print? It says, “Mitten Strings for G-d,; Reflections for mothers in a hurry.”

Yup. That is me. In a hurry.

And so are most of the moms that I am friends with too.

Here’s a quote:

When I stop myself, when I draw a circle of stillness around me, my children are drawn into that peaceful place.  They visibly relax…(24).

Always in a hurry.  Relax.

Here is  another of her books:

I haven’t read this one, but I will. And then she also has a new one… but this ISN’T a sponsored post! You can go to her blog and see for yourself all the more that she has and is!

Those of you  who may know me, are always surprised by by own feelings about faith, but know I keep it to myself and I don’t create borders around it or try to define it too much.  I was raised without any religious guidance really, but we celebrated both Christmas and Hanakah.  My childhood best friends were Catholic and Born-Again Christians. My sister studies Buddhism and my grandparents were an array of Presbyterian, Methodist, Orthodox Jewish, Reform Judaism and Mormon (converted). Seriously.

So needless to say, you can’t fit my thoughts about faith in a tidy box. But I do appreciate the over-arching messages that religion provides, without question, and know that for me, faith is extremely important.  I don’t talk about it very much, but I do like to read about it and find inspiration in this.

Kenison’s book has been a really nice diversion from a busy, hectic life.  Her delivery, is really very open and honest and I can just read a 4-5 page chapter, put it down, and then think about it all day long as I go through my day. Nice.  If you find inspiration by reading, you may enjoy her reflections.

I will leave you with this one:

It is not what I do as a mother, but who I am as  a human being that will make a deep and lasting impression on my children (Katrina Kenison, Mitten Strings,161).

 

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