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What’s On Your Nightstand? H.A.G. Reads for January

First in line is telling you what I finished from December…er, November. I sort of skipped right over December, as I was uber busy with what, trying to find a job, Christmas, Hanukkah, life. Yes. Reading sort of went out the window, what with kids home from school and such, there just isn’t much quiet time that time of year as many of you well know!

Enter, January. A month of resolutions and reading schedules. Seems everyone is signed up for a challenge of some kind, and reading is just one. Last year I had a fun group that interracted really well until July and then just completely stopped. Boo. This year, I am going to try to show up for a real book group- as in, in-person, and maybe read some more books to share with you all!

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Okay, back to what I finished:

The Four Tendencies, by Gretchen Rubin (2017)

I received this book in exchange for a review (always 100% honest) from Blogging for Books, a great way to get books if you are a blogger. A quick summary: Gretchen Rubin, of The Happiness Project, wrote this book, which is why it intrigued me to request it from Blogging for Books in the first place. While I do love me some self-help, it is not nearly the draw that I used to have in my 20’s or 30’s. Maybe in my 40’s I am lazy. Or else more self-aware? No idea. Maybe I was just not into putting myself into a “type” and then overanalyzing how I view the world. That is definitely it.

What I did love about this book is how it showed that people approach the world through 4 different lenses:

  1. A Questioner: Resists outer expectations, Meets inner expectations
    Why should I be doing this? Give me the evidence, I want reasons.
  2. An Upholder: Meets outer expectations, Meets inner expectations
    This is something that should be done. I’ve got it.
  3. An Obliger: Meets outer expectations, Resists inner expectations
    Let me show you how well I can do this.
  4. A Rebel: Resists outer expectations, Resists inner expectations
    Don’t tell me what to do, or how to do it.

Her premise is, that knowing who you are and who other’s are, helps everyone. For example, knowing that an Upholder, enjoys routine, they may have trouble making sudden schedule changes, makes you a better friend/mom/sister/daughter/co-worker when you don’t resist her tendencies. The book gives examples of scenarios like this, where you look at a certain person in your life and their tendencies; First, how to understand them, then how to deal with them.

The book gives some insight. I like that. My favorite chapter was the last, titled, “Speaking Effectively to Each Tendency.” AKA=> signage and language. Love this. I have had to make so many signs in my workplace- some formal, some scratched on paper: Out of Order. But this chapter shows how to use wording that gets to all-4 tendencies motivations in the best way. Awesome.

Rec: As for the rest of the book, if you love self-help, and loved the Happiness Project, this is your guy. For self help, 4 of 5 stars.

Manhattan Beach, by Jennifer Egan (2017)

From the recommendation of my very well read sis-in-law, and blogger at What Should I Read (tons of great to-be-read ideas there!), I was made aware of this book. No stranger to Jennifer Egan, I loved Visit from the Good Squad (2010) so much, that I didn’t want it to end. Every book after this one, kind of sucked- that good. I also read, The Keep(2007), a creepy and annoyingly not as good as Goon Squad book, but one that has stayed with me for years, so I know it was good, but I didn’t love it while reading. Do you ever feel like that?

Anyhoo- this book. A historical fiction about the characters who lived during WWII in NYC. I found it fascinating as a study of naval history, gangster dynamics, and general NYC life at this time. We follow the character of Anna, from a young girl, to a grown adult, and her relationship with her beloved father who abandons her, her father’s employer, a dicey but complex “mobster”, and so many other interesting characters in Anna’s life. The book addresses the treatment of women at the time when they were just joining the workforce alongside men, the balance of ethnic relationships within the city, the view of people with physical/learning challenges, and so much more.

What I loved: The complexity and intertwining of the story and its characters. Each person has good and bad qualities and is very human in their portrayal- how they interrelate is genius and like an onion, in not so much surprising ways, but very pleasing as it builds to a very satisfying end. G-d I missed that.

What I didn’t love: Nothing. I loved this book.

I fully recommend this title and all of Jennifer Egan’s work. If you love historical fiction, and have any interest in WWII based in the US stories, this is your guy. 5 of 5 stars. (I know. I haven’t done that in a while!)

NW, by Zadie Smith (2012)

I got this book from a used book store that went out of business, it was a dollar, and honestly I bought it because of the author, Zadie Smith, who is the author of last year’s much covered book, Swing Time. NW is a very interesting, if not hard to read book. It took me 2 months of picking up- putting down. I just didn’t want to pick it up all the time. Broken up into different character viewpoints, which finally made sense to me how they all fit together in the last part of the last chapter…this could have been my problem. I felt left out of the conversation…like not getting the joke. But I pressed on, since I like her writing. A lot. But it shifted from first to third person…and you get me? This is not a linear book.

It made me feel uncomfortable and like I was seeing into lives, otherwise not known to me. It addresses race, class, neighborhood arrangements defining your life, opportunities taken or missed, education, expectations, emotions, base hungers…lots packed in here, and I didn’t always want to go there, so it took a while to get through it. If I had a commute and could read at long stretches while sitting on the train…this would have taken 5 days. If you are me…well. I need something quicker, but it doesn’t mean I didn’t like it.

What I loved: Characters. I love the viewpoints not normally shared in fiction.

What I didn’t love: Characters. Not a joyful book. This is heavy on the heart, but real and interesting, so -meh-.

Rec: I’d recommend for lovers of literary fiction, anyone who loved her other books, and people who ride the train to work. 3 of 5 stars.

You think it, I’ll Say It, by Curtis Sittenfeld (on sale April 24, 2018)

I wanted to read this book, because of the title. Seriously. I usually say, what other people think. Which is why I am often told, “You’re funny.” Which I am not particularly, it’s just that I am a reflection of what they would NEVER day or do. So apparently that is funny. {sigh}. I thought it would be ironic. And I was right- I love this book.

Let me back up. This book is a collection of stories…not always something I love, but I loved this. And I read it on the Kindle app for my iPad, which is always hard for me. But, the possibility that I can read a full story at one sitting, these days is nothing short of amazing to me, and short stories are perfect for iPad reading.

The characters are so real, so relatable, so surprisingly doing or saying what real people say and do…I get this. I totally get this book and it’s people. While uncomfortable often, it’s relatable always.

Now for my mind being blown: Curtis Sittenfeld is a woman. {?!#!}  Here I was thinking that this man, Curtis, had the best viewpoint and way of writing both from a woman and a man’s voice. This is always a pet-peeve or giveaway for me, when I am reading, that if a woman writes as a man or a man as a women, it has to be spot on. So when I found out Curtis is a woman…I am now amazed how well she writes from a  man’s point of view! Yes. Maybe women with men’s names, like me: Barrie, are ironic. Like their names. I totally connected with her writing, no matter that I didn’t understand how a man, author could write a woman’s point of view so well. I was amazed. Now that I know this, I know her and so do you…she has written books that are on my TBR shelf: American Wife, Prep, and Sisterland.

This is just one more reason why I don’t trust my brain and why I use Goodreads. I can’t remember anything! Ugh. Either way, here’s my synopsis:

What I loved: The short fully fleshed out stories that were thought provoking, interesting, fun to read, and had fully fleshed out characters. I am putting her other books ahead of the line, in my TBR list for sure.

What I didn’t love: I wanted more from some stories…like a whole book done on one small story. But then, other stories, I was all set, so maybe the balance here was perfect.

Rec: I liked most of the stories thoroughly, and would recommend highly for anyone pressed for time reading, so they could finish a story and feel gratified like I did- but also for a person that enjoys literary fiction and isn’t pressed for time, this is a good one and an author to watch for. 4 out of 5 stars. Not out until April 24th, so put it on your advanced order list!

What’s on YOUR Nightstand? Let me know in the comments! I love sharing books and adding to my To-Be-Read (TBR) Stack of books!

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4 thoughts on “What’s On Your Nightstand? H.A.G. Reads for January

  1. Kym Thorpe

    The Four Tendencies looks interesting – rather like learning styles, which I have read about. I think I’m a Questioner. Here’s what’s been on my nightstand this month (blog link)

  2. Beth@Weavings

    The Four Tendencies is on my radar to read, but probably not soon. I really disliked The Happiness Project (though I was probably the only one), but really enjoyed Better Than Before.

    1. hardlyagoddess@gmail.com Post author

      Even if you don’t “love” it, I think there’s a lot of valuable information to glean from the book- I can see how it would help me in my personal life in several areas and at work- the interesting thing is once I read it – I didn’t “love” it, I started using the principles- so it sort of stuck with me!


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